RELATIONAL VIRTUE GROUP

Because I value others as those whom Christ created and redeemed, I choose to treat them as I would like to be treated.

How To Treat People

Unselfish

Jesus lived to bless others. Their needs were His first concern. His life of unselfish teaching and healing was to serve them. He shared His best with others.

Definition

Unselfishness related virtues: Compassion, generous, golden rule, hospitality, service, selflessness, sharing.

Unselfishness means: Selflessness, sharing, service, generous, golden rule conduct, having no concern for one's self, granting use of possessions, providing services that benefit or help.

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Give Your Heart to Jesus
What Shall I Give Thee Master
I Will Share My Faith
Do your Best, MV Songs 84

Student Life Applications

Any Good Samaritan deed such as:
1 Student helping lady fix the flat tire on her car
2 Student sharing his food with someone who has none
3 Student taking care of sister when his friends are all playing ball
4 Student letting another person go before him in line
5 Student letting another person take a better seat.
6 Someone is passing out goodies, kids are crowding around and reaching out,
7 Student lets another person go first into the bus
8 Student lets another person go first through the door
9 Student lets another person go first in the shopping line
10 Student helping the parent instead of playing with friend
11 Child sharing his/her toys with a friend
12 Student picking up garbage on the street
13 Students in singing bands for hospital patients
14 Student reaching out to take heavy packages from older person
15 Student giving bottles of water to workmen with shovel, etc.
16 Students handing out food along a row of very poor houses
17 Student leading an elderly person across the street
18 Student takes care of the baby while his friends are calling out to come to play with them
19 Student sharing his lunch
20 Student praying for a sick person
21 Student helping anyone carry gifts
22 Dividing some good things to eat
23 Student steps back and lets others have their share first

Bible, E.G. White

Daniel 5:17 Then Daniel answered and said before the king, Let thy gifts be to thyself, and give thy rewards to another
John 3:16 God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son
Isaiah 6:8 Then said I, ‘Here am I; send me.’
Acts 2:45 All the believers were together and had everything in common. They gave to anyone as he had need
Acts 3:6 Such as I have give I thee: In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth rise up and walk.
Luke 3:11 He that hath two coats, let him impart to him that hath none

“None should be content to feed on the bread of life without sharing it with those around them.” 5T 606
“Seize every opportunity to contribute to the happiness of those around you, sharing with them your affection.” 7T 50
“The approval of God rests with loving assurance upon the children who cheerfully......share the burdens of father and mother..” CT148
“Let the world see that we......desire others to share our blessings and privileges.” DA 152
“Brethren and sisters, invite to your homes those who are in need of entertainment and kindly attention. Make no parade; but, as you see their necessity, take them in and show them genuine Christian hospitality..” 6T 347
“The sower multiplies his seed by casting it away. So it is with those who are faithful in distributing God's gifts.” AA 346
“Self-denial is to do good to others where inclination would lead you to serve and please yourself.” 4T 521
“By denying yourselves and lifting the cross for Jesus, you will receive His approval and blessing.” 4T 511
“Whether believers or unbelievers, all men are the Lord's property. All are called to do service for Him,.” COL 326
“Christ desires us to make His service appear attractive, as it really is.” MB 88
“The true object of education is to fit men and women for service by developing and bringing into active exercise all their faculties. The work at our colleges and training schools should be strengthened year by year, for in them our youth are to be prepared to go forth to serve the Lord as efficient laborers.” CT 493

Reinforcing Stories

The four chaplains who gave their life vests to others and then stood together on their sinking ship.

The Children’s Hour I, pp 127, 200, by Arthur S. Maxwell
“All Over the Bowl”, “Thinking of Others”, Book Two, The Children’s Hour, pp 17, 111, 201, by Arthur S. Maxwell
The Children’s Hour III, pp 85, 105, by Arthur S. Maxwell
The Children’s Hour V, p59, by Arthur S. Maxwell
“Nellie’s Wish”, Volume One, Uncle Arthur’s Bedtime Stories, pp 25, 108, by Arthur S. Maxwell
“Amy’s Gift”, “Peggy’s Sacrifice”, “Unlucky Jim”, Volume Two, Uncle Arthur’s Bedtime Stories, pp 9, 58, 72
“Selfish Sandy”, Volume Three, Uncle Arthur’s Bedtime Stories, pp 32, 43, by Arthur S. Maxwell
“Teresina”, Volume Four, Uncle Arthur’s Bedtime Stories, pp 9, 131, 47, by Arthur S. Maxwell
Great Stories for Kids IV, p 90, by Jerry Thomas
Teaching Your Children Values, p 181, by Linda & Richard Eyre
“An Unselfish Girl Named Jane”, “Harold Was Worried”, Going Up by Charles L. Paddock

Student Activities

Mission trips

Links to the Curriculum

Resources

Observation during recess time may reveal attitudes to consider.

Primary:
Tell or write two ways that show that God is unselfish.
Tell or write about a time when you saw someone show unselfishness.
Tell or write about when you showed unselfishness like God would do.
Tell or write about when you saw the hurt and unhappiness when someone was not unselfish:
How do you think God feels when He sees people who are unselfish?
How do you feel when you are unselfish?
Tell two ways you that you can show unselfishness.
What makes you want to be unselfish?
What is the opposite of unselfishness? Who makes us act that way?
Finish the sentence: We can be unselfish when we..........

Middle:
Why does God care if I am unselfish?
What difference does it make whether I am unselfish or not?
What effect would it have on my future if I did not choose to be unselfish?
How would people treat me differently if I did or didn’t choose to be unselfish?
How would I feel about myself if I did or did not choose to be unselfish?
Give some reasons why you think it is best to be unselfish. Why would someone do differently?
What makes choosing to be unselfish better than the opposite?
List some ways that a person might be unselfish without anyone noticing?
List 3 situations where a person could be unselfish in his work, home, or at the shopping mall.
Is it possible for a person to get better at being unselfish? Explain.
Can you think of someone who seems good at being unselfish? What makes them better at it?
How could you learn to be better at being unselfish?
How often do you show unselfishness? Think of the last three times and tell me.
Do you like to join in when people are being unselfish? How have you joined in?

High school:
Would you practice unselfishness if no one was checking on you? Your parents, school, or the law?
What is the alternative to unselfishness and what do you see as the results of that choice?
Would you recognize it if someone was not fully unselfish? How?
Would you keep quiet if someone paid you a lot of money not to be unselfish?
Are you proud to be unselfish and willing to tell others how you feel?
If someone in a group spoke out against unselfishness would you speak up to give the other side?
Are you willing to put some money toward supporting unselfishness in your city, class, work?
Can you say that being unselfish has become a habit? How often are you that way?
What effect do you think unselfishness will have on your future life?
Do you see your family practicing unselfishness toward others? How about your church, city, or nation?
What do you think should be done to promote unselfishness in your family, friends, church, city, nation?
Does it make much difference if they are unselfish or not?