RELATIONAL VIRTUE GROUP

Because I value others as those whom Christ created and redeemed, I choose to treat them as I would like to be treated.

How To Treat People

Respect

God has established various authorities whether in the home, school, church, society or nation. He asks me to give them proper honor and respect.

Definition

Respect related virtues: Courteous, dignity, honoring others, private.

Respect means: any courteous act in any culture, privacy, judge people on their merits, let others make decisions on their own, honoring people for their position.

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Brighten the corner where you are, AYS, 10
Can the world see Jesus in You? AYS, 11
Faith of our Fathers, AYS, 27
Let us Break Bread Together, AYS, 112

Student Life Applications

1 Filipino student “blesses” the parent
2 Thai student “wai’s” the parent
3 military private salutes the officer
4 student receiving gift bows to giver
5 children wait quietly while adults are talking
6 children step behind chairs and offer seating to adults
7 student gives seat to older person on subway
8 Indian student kneels and touches feet of the parent
9 turning off the cell phone before entering a building.
10 military salute to officer
11 going to the end of the que
12 walking with an elderly grandma

Sports scenes: (not respect)
Soccer player pushing opponent
Basketball player tripping opponent
Basketball player elbowing opponent

Bible, E.G. White

Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.
Exodus 20:12 Honor thy father and thy mother
Matthew 7:12 Whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them
Ephesians 6:2 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Genesis 13:9 (Abraham had respect for Lot's choice)
I Samuel 3:1 (Samuel had respect for Eli)

“As they unite their labors with those of the older workers, using their youthful energies to the very best account, they will have the companionship of heavenly angels.” 9T 119
“Even after they are of age, children are required to respect their parents, and to look after their comfort. They should listen to the counsel of Godly parents, . . . It is considered too old-fashioned to respect the aged; 1T 218
“Manifest confidence in their judgment and respect for their authority. Teach your children to respect and honor the ones to whom God has shown respect and honor by placing them in positions of trust.” 7T 186
“Sympathy and respect encourage the striving after excellence.” MH 361

Reinforcing Stories

Growing Kids God's Way, Chapter 8, by Gary & Anne Marie Ezzo
Christian Values Every Kid Should Know, Chapter 11, by Donna Habenicht
Teaching Your Children Values, p. 156, by Richard & Linda Eyre
"Parents - Instruction Book Needed", "I Hate You", Book One, Great Stories for Kids, pg. 30; also II, pp. 122, 128, 135;
"Cassie's Day in court", Book Three, Great Stories for Kids, pp. 26, 70, by Jerry Thomas
"Georgie and the Man in Blue", Volume One, Uncle Arthur's Bedtime Stories, p. 121; also II, p. 53 by Arthur S. Maxwell
"A Bright Idea", "Angels Without Wings", "The Last Leaf on the Tree", Volume Three, Uncle Arthur's Bedtime Stories
"The Storm", "When Dick Ran Away", Volume Four, Uncle Arthur's Bedtime Stories
" Gordon's Good Deed", Book Five, The Children's Hour, p. 155, by Arthur S. Maxwell
"The Devil Rides a Bicycle", "Old Mrs. Penny Pincher", Treasury of Devotional Aids for Home and School

Student Activities

Links to the Curriculum

Resources

Primary:
Tell or write two ways that show that God is respectful.
Tell or write about a time when you saw someone show respect.
Tell or write about when you showed respect like God would do.
Tell or write about when you saw the hurt and unhappiness when someone was not respectful:
How do you think God feels when He sees people who are respectful?
How do you feel when you are respectful?
Tell two ways that you can show respect.
What makes you want to be respectful?
What is the opposite of respect? Who makes us act that way?
Finish the sentence: We can be respectful when we..........

Middle:
Why does God care if I am respectful?
What difference does it make whether I am respectful or not?
What effect would it have on my future if I did not choose to be respectful?
How would people treat me differently if I did or didn’t choose to be respectful?
How would I feel about myself if I did or did not choose to be respectful?
Give some reasons why you think it is best to be respectful. Why would someone do differently?
What makes choosing to be respectful better than the opposite?
List some ways that a person might be respectful without anyone noticing?
List 3 situations where a person could be respectful in his work, home, or at the shopping mall.
Is it possible for a person to get better at being respectful? Explain.
Can you think of someone who seems good at being respectful? What makes them better at it?
How could you learn to be better at being respectful to others?
How often do you show respect? Think of the last three times and tell me.
Do you like to join in when people are being respectful? How have you joined in?

High school:
Would you practice respect if no one was checking on you? Your parents, school, or the law?
What is the alternative to respect and what do you see as the results of that choice?
Would you recognize it if someone was not fully respectful? How?
Would you keep quiet if someone paid you a lot of money not to be respectful?
Are you proud to be respectful and willing to tell others how you feel?
If someone in a group spoke out against respect would you speak up to give the other side?
Are you willing to put some money toward supporting respectfulness in your city, class, work?
Can you say that being respectful has become a habit? How often are you that way?
What effect do you think respect will have on your future life?
Do you see your family practicing respect toward others? How about your church, city, or nation?
What do you think should be done to promote respect in your family, friends, church, city, nation?
Does it make much difference if they are respectful or not?